Hello, Renxkyoko Iglesias musing here!
Eight days have passed…………. time to post again. Meh. As usual, I’m hitting a blank wall.
I just checked out my email folder, with almost 2,000 read emails . I deleted around 500. Going through the mails, I suddenly felt a wave of nostalgia and sadness wash over me when I read a series of emails between a certain person and myself. He was my one-sided love.

But the unrequited love is not the reason why I felt sad. The reason is more dire than that. I have a question….. what is the mathermatical probability that out of the population of 4 billion men, the guy that you happen to like has a terminal illness ? He turned 20 this September. He was diagnosed when he was just 18 years old. This is really true. “ Hey, Dreamsending, I guess you now have an idea who he is.” ( Dreamsending is my co-author here on Renxkyoko’s space )
So, what else can I talk about ? Well, I bought a blu-ray of the movie The Strangers, ( recommended by a blogger )and the first season of Walking Dead. ( recommended by 3 bloggers ) I don’t think I can watch the movies this week. I have exams coming next week. As usual, crunch time.
It’s been a rather boring week. Seriously, I really have nothing to talk about. It seems everything is …. lifeless. Everyday it’ s school, work, home…….and I guess this happens to be one of my “off” days . I really feel lethargic, and I just want to curl up in bed and sleep .
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Hi, again ! I wrote the above 4 days ago. Today is Veteran’s Day, so there’s no school, although I went to work from 1 PM to 7 . And there wasn’t much happening there, either. My boss gave me another $ 150 gift certificate, though. My third one ! Also, I deleted/erased most of what I had written above about this guy. . I thought they were most inappropriate. My problem with him seemed so puny compared to his own personal problem, so I felt I had no right whatsoever to feel hurt. I mean, his situation is mind- blowing. I can’t even imagine what he’s feeling now. Last I heard from him, there was remission. I hope it stays that way. So young ……….
So…..
My mom got a call from the Philippines, from my aunt, Mom’s sister. She told my Mom that a cousin, ( their first cousin ) had asked my aunt to call Mom, so that Mom could call a nephew ( who’s in the Philippines, too , and who’s actually my Dad’s nephew, the son of his sister) and ask him what his real intentions are regarding Mom’s first cousin’s daughter, who happens to be the nephew’s girlfriend. ( Are you still with me? LOL )……… maybe a diagram is in order.
Mom——> First cousin——–> daughter Cathy
Dad——-> Sister———> son Don
Cathy <——- hearts ——–> Don
Backround story: It was when Mom and I went to the Philippines last year on vacation that Don and Cathy were introduced at a family reunion. Cathy is a 30 year old doctor, single, and really quite pretty. Don is a 35 year old lawyer, single, and never even had a girlfriend. So, they liked each other, and just had a first year anniversary of their relationship last August. But, here’s the thing…. it seems Cathy wants to get married, but doesn’t want to bring up the subject of marriage to Don. Mom is not sure if Cathy knows about her Mom’s call to my Mom, but Mom’s assuming she does, so Mom calls Don. For fun, this is more or less, Mom’s and Don’s conversation:
Mom : Don, don’t tell Cathy I talked to you about this, but Cathy’s Mom called and told me to sound you off about Cathy’s desire to get married.
Don : Aunty, I know what Cathy feels, but, I have just started my own law firm, and right now, I can barely pay the rent and my secretary’s salary. My savings are fast disappearing. I don’t think I can afford to have a family now.
Mom: Don, Cathy is a doctor. She’s doing okay financially. She knows you’re in a bind now, yet, she still wants to get married to you..
Don: That’s exactly the reason why I don’t want to get married yet. I should be the one to support her, to bring home the bacon.
Mom: Don, you’re 35. How long will it take you to build a steady clientle, 5 years, 10 years? You’ll be 40 by then, and Cathy will be 35. She doesn’t want that. She’s willing to share the burden with you, as a wife.
Don: That’s what she thinks now…. but, I’m sure there are going to be money problems… and marital fights…… that’s inevitable….. and I don’t want that to happen to us.
Mom: Don, you don’t have to marry her now….. all you have to do is make the relationship official…. give her a ring, get engaged… that’s all for now…. and then both of you decide when to get married.
Don : Alright, alright. Aunty, I love you, but please don’t think I’m doing this because you asked me to. I’m doing this of my own free will and because I love her, okay?
Mom : Alright ! But please don’t get married before our Euro trip next year. We want to attend the wedding ! ! !
Of course I embellished the conversation a little bit, but it’s more or less 80% accurate. I was the Third wheel on their first few dates ! And I witnessed the awkwardness of 2 grown adults. I couldn’t believe it. Or was it a culture thing? Mom says in the rural areas in the Philippines, a man has to serve the family of the girl he’s courting. Like, chopping firewood for cooking? Oh, and there’s this tradition of serenading the girl ! They say the guy serenades the girl at night, under the moonlight, and if the girl likes him back, she will open the window and listen, but if she doesn’t like him, the window will not be opened. And if the guy can’t sing, he hires a professional singer. Wow! Just imagine the scene…. a guy singing a haunting love song, accompanied by a guitar, and the girl looking out the window, with a lovely smile on her face, awwww ! I wonder if this tradition still exists. Mom says it still does, coz she was serenaded once by a young, poor farmer when she stayed at a small barrio for one month for her on the job training when she was in college. She siad it was embarassing and awkward., like, did the guy really think that would work? LOL
Edited to include a pic of Philipine tradition of Serenade:

I have a question, though…. do you think my Mom crossed the line by ” urging” my cousin Don to get engaged to Cathy? Well, actually, it was Cathy’s mother who wanted Mom to do that. This isn’t what we call a shotgun wedding , is it ? Shotgun weddings are for pregnant ladies, and Cathy isn’t.
Anyways, I hope Philippine guys continue with this sweet tradition of courtship, serenade and all. It’s awesome. Over here in the US, wham, bam, thank you , Ma’m is the thing.
Well, this is all for now. Good day to all ! Oh, wait, before I go, there’s this Filipino boxer Manny Pacquiao who’s gonna have a bout with a Mexican boxer Marquez tonight on HBO’s Pay Per View. You bet we’re going to watch. And some guests are coming, including my sister’s boyfriend’s cousins. ( A bunch of white guys, haha ) Last time the cousins were here, BF and one cousin almost had their own boxing match at the backyard. It seemed the cousin favored the other boxer. And, they had beers too many.
Alright, gotta go….. I’ll bake cupcakes ! ! Bye for now !